Quick Queer Thoughts: Being Bi Is Complicated

Reflecting on the complexities of bisexuality, this post dips its toes into the nuances, challenges, and beauty of embracing a multifaceted identity.

My friends have all been cool about it. My parents were okay—they spent two hours lecturing me about how it’s probably just a phase and you can’t really know who you’ll fall in love with. I gained nothing from that experience. My parents never let me come out to my grandmothers. They died not knowing the real me.

I have complicated feelings about being bisexual and being out. Mainly I hate how people hypersexualize me for being bi. Couples want me to be their unicorn. People I barely know assume my sexuality is an invitation to talk about sex. People, both straight and gay, make assumptions about my promiscuousness and sexual deviance based on my sexual orientation. It’s frustrating because their assumptions are always wrong and I’d rather not be sexualized by anyone.

I’m just here for the romance. Show me how you love and appreciate life. Gender is irrelevant. It’s all about connection.